This week in class, we talked about the impact of stresses on the family. We learned about the ABCX model. This stands for the Actual event, Behavioral response, Cognition and total eXperience. Our cognition of the experience is our thoughts about all parts of the experience. We learned that some crisis are preparatory to others. I think this is very true. There are stresses that every family goes through and these help them prepare for unexpected events. Heavenly Father gives us stress in our family life to help us grow together. We can choose to look for what we ares supposed to learn or concentrate on the pain. Trials can destroy us or make us better. It is really bad to get stuck in a state of helplessness. The victim mentality is bad. We need to do something. We should ask for Heavenly Father's help to know what it is that we need to do. We also learned about how anger is usually covering another stronger, more prevalent emotion. Anger is easier to deal with than fear and anxiety. It is an attempt on our part to regulate unpleasant emotions.