Last week in class we talked about the different stages couples go through together. I think it's very important that your wedding does not become more important than your marriage. The engagement period should not be a period where the only thing discussed is the wedding. The couple should plan for their marriage also. It is important to talk about how you will parent your children before they are born. It is important to give husbands' the opportunity to bond with their child. He does not need to do everything the way that you do it. Women need to take their opinions into consideration.
I thought it was interesting to learn about cohabiting. When couples live together, they tend to live parallel lives and not intertwined lives. It is a lot more difficult to go from this kind of a relationship to an intertwined one.
I think asking guests to contribute to the wedding instead of buying gifts is a great idea. This way they can feel that they are somehow contributing to the expenses of the wedding. It is also good because the couple can start their lives without worrying about money.
We talked how we should be at least as concerned about our spouse as much as we are with ourselves. This is not something that is natural. It is divine and for that reason requires heavenly help.